Scrolling through my Twitter feed – I saw a young college student’s tweet last night – that reinforced my purpose, it went something like “College is stressing me out – I don’t know my next move at all.” It stuck out for 2 reasons – One – I felt the exact same way at times when I was in undergrad a few years ago – and two – within one year of graduating (~6-7 mos) I realized – my next move was anything I wanted it to be – there is no magic answer and no one can give it to me. After paying my 1st ridiculous student loan payment it became CLEAR that my next move BETTER BE WHAT I WANT IT TO BE. So I’d better sit here and figure it out. I promised myself, no way am I going to pay a loan and I don’t love my career and my check – NEVER. I further began to really believe – no one can tell me what I should do – should be – can do – or go. NO ONE- that decision was all me. And that is what I tell my Blooms (you guys). The only people I listened to – who actually became the inspiration behind my message were those who asked me, “How are you going to make it happen?” – “What’s your plan?” – “Who are you networking with” “What does your resume look like and SAY about you….” (Is it tailored and PERFECT) “What’s your pitch?” (Can you sell yourself) and “…don’t look outward – look within. You know yourself better than anyone – you know if you can write or not – what are your strengths AND weaknesses?” – it is simple. This is what I had to figure out – how to use the raw materials I have collected (degrees, work experience, my talents) to get to where I want to be. A college degree doesn’t guarantee you your dream job – it really doesn’t guarantee anything – it just potentially grants you access into doors of opportunities for you to choose from – your ambition and hustle – that’s all you.
So here it goes: Your next move depends on your goal – if you can’t state your goal – you can’t worry about your next move because you don’t have a next goal yet. Goal setting has to come with the firm belief that YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH them. You have to believe in yourself. If you have a lot of “Um I don’t knows”….you have some work to do – well some thinking rather. Life is designed for your navigation – there is no cheat sheet, guide-book or cliff notes – no technical experts if you think about it – just people who have accomplished a level of success who advise based on their experience – so it helps to admire something about their achievements. I encourage you to follow those who make YOU think and encourage you to stay in the race and stay your course OR from a tough love angle – tell you to change course. Certain things are just common sense – and if the advice is not backed up by why it is being offered – take it with a grain of salt. If someone tells you, especially if you are choosing a major, deciding to go back to school or get a certification, – “I think you should do this – there is money in this field” let me be the first to tell you – that does NOT MEAN THAT IS YOUR FIELD. Listen to your gut. Remember, you are going to be the one that has to go to work and make your living no one is doing that for you – my goal is to help you position yourself on a path that you are going to thrive in – well my goal is to inspire your DREAMS but also have satisfaction and high achievements as well. If not – that is a sure way to fail or become unmotivated and stir up regret. And I HATE saying “Man I wish I had…” Boils me up. I’m no expert – I’m just a naturally curious soul who asks, what I believe to be, great questions about getting ahead, feeding ambition, developing talent and finding the best advice and resources to get me to my goals while sifting through hot air. So with that – to all my college students, recent grads and fellow 20-somethings trying to figure it out( and parents of them). Bloom! (Plant your own seeds and nurture your own growth).
As my mentor has been telling me for 10 years now when I ask him certain questions like “What do you think?” He always responds with – “Every decision has a choice, every choice has a consequence.” – So what does that mean? Look at the consequence or end result first – I firmly believe – you know before you even start – if something especially career wise is worth your time and energy (and money). If you only pause instead of jumping ahead first. Passion and desire determine that. This is YOUR life – so make your own choices but do NOT be afraid to ask questions and seek advice – pride and ego – need to go in this process. I’d rather have too much wisdom than too much pride.
Keep calm and Bloom! ❤